5 Signs your long distance relationship is not working

Long-distance relationship has never been difficult even when the world is virtually connected like never. Though augmented reality is making inroads in marketing, it is unlikely it will help heal relationship barriers. Like a young plant needs light and water to grow, so does relationship. It requires time, patience and understanding. Like anything in life, it also needs commitment and effort in order to survive and be successful.  

In the era of fierce competition and destructive work-life balance, the young millennials often look for small term relationship rather than finding true love.  When this relationship becomes long distance, the chances of survival fades, however, many do not call it quits in the first instance.

When do you know it is time to put your relationship in reverse gear? How can you sense your relationship has reached an irrecoverable path? Here are five signs that clearly indicate that your relationship has no meaning.

 Signs your LDR has reached a dead end

1.Communicating feels difficult

There is nothing as powerful as humour in a relationship and you can bridge every distance when you can laugh your heart together. A meaningful relationship can alone survive the test of LDR, if you value and trust each other. Open communication is the secret weapon to keep the alliance going when there is no physical contact. The simple joy of sharing your small chit-chats throughout the day breathes air into each other’s hearts. When this virtual togetherness becomes a chore, you feel disinterested in your partner and talking to him/her becomes a burden, you can hear the alarm ringing. The same is with your partner, if he/she are irritated with your calls, perhaps you need an urgent move.

If your relationship is your priority, building it, is only a ticket away, in order to forgo any disagreements or confusion. However, if it is not possible to travel due to work pressure or any other issue, then it is better to call it quits.

2.The blame game

When the loving chit-chatting turns into a blame game, the laughs into heated arguments, it is time to check your priorities. You may blame each other for not putting enough effort or giving time but when you love each other, you should be prepared to forgive too. No one is perfect and each one with different set of traits are unique and react differently in every situation. If we can respect each other’s individuality, and be honest, there is room for reconciliation.

It is a dead end when you do not wish to listen to your partner, you cannot work on a healthy resolution. There is no point in suffering in a long distance relationship and passing the blame back and forth.

 3.Lack of trust

Trust and honesty are an important factor in any relationship, and it comes with time. If the trust DNA is not in your system, LDR is bound to fail. There are many who suffer with trust deficit syndrome and need effective communication skills to pass the barrier. However, you can seek help from relationship counsellors who can light you with their wisdom and set your LDR in line. In fact, when you are watchful of your thoughts, you can train your probing mind to focus on your partner’s positive influence and how meaning he/she is in your life. Having said this, lack of trust can affect the LDRs faster than any other relationship challenge.

4. Self-sacrifice and compromise

Loving yourself is the secret recipe for loving others and making LDR successful. If your LDR effects your goals in life, you need to re-think. A meaningful relationship depends on how much you can find yourself in each other. It is not that similar personalities make relationship easier, but the truth is, the opposites attract. Generally, you try to find in others, what you lack. However, when you try to change yourself to please your partner, you are doing little to save your LDR, because you can only be happy when you are content inside. Self-sacrifice to the point of losing your purpose in life can only lead to meltdown.

5.No plans

Planning for a future together makes the relationship stronger. When you aspire for a common goal, it becomes easier to survive the conspiracies of distance and time. If the two have no common goals and do not see yourself in the same picture in the future, then your relationship is unable to grow. If this sounds familiar, then you need to re-examine your relationship.

Conclusion

Sensuality is important between couples, and most men are keen about it. However, without physical contact, you can still enjoy a sensuous relationship when you gift him a TPE love doll. You can design your love doll to look exactly like yourself and let your partner live with the artificial “you” to prevent him from cheating. Loneliness is a challenge in LDR and you can either move together as a married couple or get him a love doll to address his sensual desires or simply break it off.